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Tuesday, August 3, 2010

Is there such a perfect father?

When I see a model in some advertisement, I can't resist to say a comment like, 'what a perfect model, nice teeth, hot face, great body, perfect to be a model'. But nobody knows if that model is really perfect, maybe there are some hidden bad traits or who knows.

But how about being a father, can we be a perfect one or let us stick to the saying 'nobody is perfect' in all aspect of our life. If you are going to try the following tips then maybe:

- Know your kids and believe in them.

Do you have a 'listening kid' or 'not listening'? What is the favorite color of your kid? What do they love most? Are they afraid of something? Where are the weakest or strongest part of their character? How about their friends? Sports? Food? And the worst, maybe you do not know his/her allergy.

It is about knowing our kids well enough and sometimes that involves hard decisions even for a perfect father. We must know our kids to have right decisions even if it will be hard for us. The perfect Dad not only know his kid but he believe in him also. Every kid has a potential and that potential can be developed only when we raise our kids with love. Having a child is not an accident and they are not inconvenience. That is the glory of God's plan, they are meant to be our kids. And they know if you believe or not.

- You know what is needed and not what is deserved

Did you ever hear sometimes that your kid say 'I don't need that Dad' or 'I don't deserve that Dad'. Sounds the same but dads.....many times, they are not. If you are father that always base you decision on what is deserved then it is a pattern if spiteful action and ultimate rejection. On the other hand, deciding what is needed never lets you lose focus on the big picture.


Fatherhood is not simply a task, it involves discernment, knowledge, forgiveness and sacrifice.





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